Welcome to The Balanced Life, this is where you can find positive change and balance in your life.

The Balanced Life is devoted to helping others deal with life's stresses and we do this via a unique approach to counselling. Our philosophy incorporates the great outdoors as we strive to make our clients feel as free and as comfortable as possible.

We look forward to meeting you.

We can help with;

Personal, Work or Financial Stress
Relationship Difficulties
Grief and Loss
Domestic violence
Self Harm
Anger Management
Self Esteem and Motivation
Post Natal Depression
Narrative Therapy

Narrative Therapy replicates an age-old tradition of storytelling.

It is based on the notion that we make meaning of our lives through the stories we tell. These stories are constructed within the larger stories that make up our social, political, and interpersonal contexts. It recognises the power that the stories we tell of ourselves, others and our place in the world can shape our lives both in the present and future.

It enables people to speak in ways that acknowledge problems and the effects those problems have had on their life, but are not re-traumatising. Instead therapeutic conversations between counsellor and client strengthen the individual personally and the relationships they hold with their histories, culture and the people in their lives.

Most importantly Narrative Therapy centres people as the experts in their own lives. It views problems as separate from people and assumes people have many skills, competencies, beliefs, values and abilities that will assist them to reduce the influence of problems in their lives.

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Walk and Talk Therapy

Exercise is good for the body as well as the mind. Walk and Talk Therapy is an innovative way of working that helps people feel more relaxed and can create a more engaging atmosphere for change.

Movement propels people forward -- literally and figuratively and working while walking creates a sense of freedom that talking within four walls cannot achieve. It is especially helpful with teenage clients or anyone who finds traditional methods of counselling stifling and restrictive.

Counselling sessions can be conducted outdoors near your home or office or in some of Auckland's most beautiful parks and beaches.
Post Natal Depression

Post Natal Depression (PND) Counselling in Your Home

Having a newborn is like entering into the world of the unknown. Every day brings different challenges and with lack of sleep, the reality is it can be quite a stressful and isolating event (as well as being wonderful). One in five women experience some form of Post Natal Distress and men can experience it also.

Therapy can help to:

Develop strategies for coping, reducing and managing post natal anxiety/depression
Increase your self-esteem and confidence
Address any relationship/family issues
Improve communication
Improve overall balance of life
Reaching out for help is always the hardest first step, however most PND is treatable and the sooner you reach out, the sooner you can get some balance back in your life.

Sessions are roughly 50-60minutes long and are discounted if you have a child under 1 year. You can arrange a time that suits best and I will do my best to work around you.

Feel free to give me a call to discuss if counselling will be right for you.
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Ellie Hancock

I am the type of person that ends up in deep conversations with people all the time - from a catch up dinner with friends, to someone I have just met at a wedding, you can bet I will be having 'those' types of conversations. After thinking about this more, it occurred to me I was not actually the one encouraging these conversations, but instead they occurred naturally. It seemed people confided in me, and trusted me.

I wanted to explore this more, so I did a Psychology degree, with a Post-graduate diploma in Counselling. Whilst I was studying I got involved part-time with Youthline, Shine and Victim Support. I immersed myself anything to do with helping others. The Balanced Life is a continuation of this devotion to what I love and to what I do best, and 'those' conversations are actually the most important conversations you could ever have with somebody.

I am here to help.
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Some Common Questions
What is counselling?
Counselling is the process of helping and supporting a person to resolve personal, social, or psychological challenges and difficulties.

How can counselling help?
A professional and well-trained counsellor helps clients to see things more clearly, possibly from a different view-point, and supports clients to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviour that will facilitate positive change.  

Counselling helps with anxiety, depression, grief and loss, life changes and stress, relationships with family, friends and work colleagues, trauma and abuse, domestic and sexual violence,

I'm an adult, do I need counselling?
There will be times in your life when you have to make big decisions and having a professional there to talk things over with can provide you with a safe, non judgemental environment in which to talk things through (Something that can be hard to find with friends and family).

We will support you in every facet of your life but from the background.

How can I make an appointment?
Contact us by using the contact form, sending an email or calling 0220402233.

What if I can't afford counselling?
If there is any issue or concern of payment please don’t hesitate to discuss this with us.
If you are receiving income support from WINZ, you may be able to access a Disability Allowance to help with the costs. Alternatively, we have payment scales based on incomes.

How do I choose a counsellor?
Choosing a counsellor is really important. It is a mutual relationship based on trust, honesty and respect. Research shows that the relationship between the client and the counsellor has more effect than the type of counselling used. Most counsellors use a range of different modalities or ways of working and know how to find the way that works best for each client.  The most important thing is to look for a counsellor with whom you feel comfortable, safe and respected.  

In the initial conversation, enquire about appointment times, place and cost. Let the counsellor know what you want to get out of counselling and check that they can provide this. You may also want to ask about the counsellor’s qualifications, their professional membership and the way they work. You should get a sense of whether you’d be comfortable talking to this person.   

What does it mean that my counsellor is a NZAC member?
NZAC, the New Zealand Association of Counsellors / Te Roopu Kaiwhiriwhi o Aotearoa is the national professional association that acts for and with counsellors to monitor and improve the service they provide.

Counsellors who are members of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors are professional and highly qualified. They work with members of the public and with government agencies, schools and corporates to help people deal effectively with life’s stresses. Quality counselling provided by a trusted NZAC professional is a valuable solution for many people facing personal challenges.
Members are bound by the NZAC code of ethics and must attend regular supervision.

To see more visit www.nzac.org.nz

What do I do if I want to lay a complaint?
NZAC has a complaints process you can access by writing to the Ethics Secretary, ethicssecretary@nzac.org.nz or NZAC, PO Box 25287, Wellington 6146 who can talk to you about whether you want to lay a complaint and what the process is.
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Life and personal development is a process. A process is defined as something that is ongoing. It doesn't end until you do. It is never complete. Life is always beautifully incomplete. I believe we are all works in progress and continue to learn and grow into ever-expanding versions of our best selves.

There can be times in our lives when moving forward in a positive, purposeful direction or being at peace seems impossible. While we do carry our past experiences and habits with us, we are intelligent and creative creatures and have the ability to move beyond these habits and experiences and make choices that align with our hopes and dreams.

If you are longing for a sense of well-being, if you are looking to establish better relationships, if you want to stop anxiety affecting your life and start believing in yourself and in what you do, if you want to learn how to set healthy boundaries and communicate effectively, if you want to build up your confidence, The Balanced Life offers you a chance to talk, think and feel freely in a non-judgemental environment. I can support you in your journey to improving your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, improving your relationships and most importantly, empowering you to live accordingly to your values and beliefs.

If you answer yes to any of the questions then you are in the right place:

- Are you feeling stuck or a little off balance?
- Do you feel as if you can't cope?
- Are you struggling with feeling stressed-out, anxious or angry?
- Perhaps you have nobody to talk to or one who listens to you?
- Feeling like something needs to change?
- Do you want to strengthen your confidence and communication skills?
- Do you want to take your life back from a dominating problem?
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